Have you read The Keeper of Lost Things by Ruth Hogan? It’s a really lovely book and part of the Butterfly Loft’s book collection.
It started me thinking about losing things. It seems to happen more as I get older and it’s an exercise in wasted time, stress and frustration.
Irrespective of gender and age, it seems that the average person spends two months of their life looking for something. Two whole months. Good grief.
It doesn’t have to be like that; believe it or not there is a technique to finding lost items.
When we lose things our basic instinct is to start looking for whatever we’ve lost and we may well hunt in a panicky, random, and increasingly frenetic way, especially if time is tight and/or it’s an important item like a passport.
Before you start looking, make sure you are calm and able to focus. Sit down with a cup of tea and think about where you last used/ saw/ held it, the place of the lost object can magically float into your mind. Only start searching when you’ve had a think.
Things are often exactly where they’re supposed to be. If there is a place where the object is normally kept look there first. And really look, to make sure it is not just your eyes deceiving you into thinking it’s not there.
Sometimes the object will be ‘camouflaged’. Your errant passport might be exactly where you thought it was, but it’s lost from view. Check under anything that might be covering the item.
If it’s not where it’s supposed to be, the lost objects might have suffered from ‘domestic drift’. Some objects have a shift in location that, although minor, has served to make them invisible, for example, the passport that you got out to do your online check in has been nudged your laptop. As a rule, missing objects tend to travel no more than 18 inches from their original location.
While many objects do have a designated or customary place where they are kept, the reality is that they aren’t always returned there. Instead, they are left wherever they were last used. Sometimes you are looking right at the missing item, but you just don’t see it. This tends to be due to the agitated state of mind that often goes with losing something especially when you’re in a hurry.
Check each area calmly and thoroughly. Lift everything up and check in the 18” circumference. Once you have thoroughly checked it, move on.
If you still can’t find your missing item, sit down again to think. Remind yourself it is exactly where you left it. What were you thinking about at the time? Was there anybody else involved? Were you listening to your radio or TV? Did somebody phone you or drop in just at that time? Did you go out to your car? Were you cleaning up in a hurry shortly afterward? It is often helpful to actually re-live and act out the sequence of what you remember happened next. Your memory knows what happened next, it just needs you to trigger the reminder.
Finding peace and calm at The Butterfly Loft. No lurking under old newspapers for us! Just roll up and there we’ll be large as life and twice as beautiful.
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